I have often refused help.

 Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.

Psalm 55:22 (ESV)
 
We must learn to cast our burden on the Lord, for He can help. Casting our burden on others may seem to lighten the load, and indeed, it may, but to remove it, we need to cast it on the Lord.
 
To not be moved is not to slip. During life's rougher times, we need to dig in, take a stand, and not move, and as we cast our cares upon Him, we can do just that. Those who cast their cares on others, or turn into moaners and groaners, will slip, for their trust has been established in areas that were not worthy of such.
 
God has never promised to remove the "burdens" of this life, but He has promised to carry them.
 
I have often refused help. My pride makes it so that I can do all things without help, but my stubborn heart makes life tougher than it was meant to be.